Pregnancy Pregnancy and More Pregnancy!

Pregnant woman...hormones running wild, feeling fat because they don't fit into their old clothes...yeah. Woman go through so many changes emotionally and physically that this hilarious video will not only make you move to the beat but will also give pregnant girls/women a laugh. I totally laughed through the whole video, I never get tired of it even through I watched it more than twice.

On a more serious note I would like to discuss about teenage pregnancy and how politics pretty much leaves teenagers on their own. I read an article on how here in America most teenagers are sexually active more than any other places, Europe coming into a close second. See the thing isn't wether is wrong or right thatyoung people should be having sex at such young age, is about the unplanned pregnancy that occurred due the lack of knowledge. When surveyed most girls said that they didn't think they could get pregnant, as for young men they said that they thought they could prevent pregnancy by having intercourse standing up, not to mention that many think that "pulling out" is also a safe choice.

Another issue found in young unplanned pregnancies: many come outside of marriage. Yes there's a lot of opinions about marriage: some don't believe in marriage instead believe in living together in civil union, meaning living and doing things as a married couple except without the court paper and the church ceremony. Others believe that there's no problem if they have sexual intercourse before marriage either with their current partner or their fiancé, or a girlfriend that they plan on marrying. And there are those that don't believe in sex before marriage.

Honestly I don't believe in sex before marriage for the exact same thing: if you happen to fall pregnant by "accident" it'll be okay. Your more secure, you've learned to mature more, become more responsible, and more importantly you know that your husband won't leave you because he's scared. He's also more mature and responsible, which means that you already have a more stable lifestyle as if you weren't married.

According to C.D.C condoms are 82% effective in preventing pregnancy but after relying only on condoms for four years, theres a possibility of becoming pregnant at least once. That's where the preposition of the LARCs comes in. LARCs or IUDs are implants placed inside the girls uterus that remains in place that strops conception to happen, it lasts up to 5 years, it's effectiveness in negligible. When offered free LARC implaments to sexually active teenagers, teenage pregnancy and abortion rates fell highly. Not to mention theres also a similar implement for guys as well.

Unfortunately our government doesn't invest very much in sexual classes for teens to learn about their sexually, preventions, etc nor do they invest to have preconceptions. Medicaid pays up to $12,000 for a birth yet they only invest $8 dollars on teenage programs to avoid pregnancy.

Either young people should be having sex or not, our government should be investing more on programs for teenage pregnancy prevention.

What's your opinion about this?

[In case you want to read the article]: http://www.nytimes.com/2014/11/13/opinion/nicholas-kristof-politicians-teens-and-birth-control.html?ref=topics&_r=0

[More information on LARCs]: http://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Long-Acting-Reversible-Contraception-LARC-IUD-and-Implant

Relationships

Looks like it's time for another free post! Yay! In today's free post I want to take advantage and get rid of some stereotypes that go around almost everyone's mind...which leads to disaster.

When we're single or taken (may it be boyfriend/girlfriend or engaged) majority of people dream that marriage will be an ocean full of roses, beautiful, romantic and just this mushy gushy happy feeling thingy. It's not. I'm sorry to be so direct. I've been around many grown-up couples that have shared they're marriage experiences with me about how hard it was to construct a happy relationship. I know is hard to imagine that the cute couple you might have in mind that are so happy with each other (they get along well) may have had arguments. But the truth is that after the honeymoon (some even in the honeymoon!) we must work hard to maintain a happy marriage.

When your dating everything is so different: you only see that person for a couple of hours but you don't really spend that much time together. When you go on dates you both get pretty for each other with cologne/perfume, your best clothes, you try to have manners, and the list goes on and on. When you get mad at each other you just say,"You know what? I'm leaving bye." And that's it. Or if the argument was really like mega bad, you'll probably break you and y'all can each go on different paths. Well my friend, in marriage it's not like that. If you get mad, you have to work things out or just leave things as they are. Don't be fooled by the fact that celebrities marry, divorce, re-marry, divorce and repeat.

While Dating

I remember when I was dating my husband I was already conscious that marriage wasn't easy nor an easy task, but I definitely did not think about the details. When I started liking my husband what I liked about him was that he was serious, mature but at the same time he was funny at times. What conquered me was that he shared the same faith that I had and we both had the same objectives in life. When he told me that he liked me we started praying and later on we started dating officially. During our dating period I already had a picture in my mind, I had already set certain expectations of what our marriage would be like. I won't say that I dreamt of a Hollywood style marriage, but in a way I thought that it would be at least a little bit of a river of chocolate hehe. In my mind I thought that because we both changed a lot during our dating time that it would make it easier when we got married. A total lied to myself.

Married

Now that I'm married I've gained experience yet I know that I have a lot more to learn. You learn a lot about the person you love, the way they really are when they're home with you all the time. When you go through problems you see how they react and how they maintain the balance between their emotions and their rational side. You see their flaws. And the thing is? That's when you discover if you love them as you thought it was. They're humans, imperfect beings that make mistakes, that are going to hurt you at times, and that's when you'll be put to the test. If you love them, no matter how hurt you are, you will forgive them. No, your not going to get payback for what they did instead your going to let it go and continue giving your best to them. In return they'll do the same because both of you love each other, you want the best for each other. Your not two people anymore: when you make those vows before the Altar (or some just in court) you become one, meaning that if one hurts the other that person is hurting themselves as well. When both partners put their efforts by sacrificing things that hurt the other, molding their behavior, and let go of the selfishness they construct a happy marriage. It takes time, it takes sacrifice, it doesn't have anything to do with feelings as society makes us believe but it's decision to be happy. If we go by our emotions we're done. For example sometimes my husband makes me upset and my flesh, my ego, my heart says to ignore him to give him the silent treatment, but instead go to him and hug him even if he doesn't want me to. Later on he says I'm sorry and he's hugging me. If I hadn't hugged him first he probably would have gotten even more mad.

So relationships....expectations vs reality.

What's your opinion on relationships?

(Here's a song that goes with the topic, I urge you to listen to it and also comment on what you think about it.)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZAAvPDgKf30

The Fault In Our Stars (Spoiler Alert)

Can I say that I cried and cried and cried and cried some more though out this movie? Do I have to mention that this movie touched my heart so much so that I cried with Hazel? I don't think so. Though I'm still going to tell you that I did cry and yes I did feel her pain. This was actually a book first and then turned into a movie that has now gone viral, majority of people know or have already seen/read it.

I'm not going to speak about the story, if you want you can go ahead and search it up and watch it or go ahead and read it (in a nice voice hehe). What I'm going to to speak about is about the story itself that conveys the true definition of love, Hazel and Gus stuck by each other's side no matter what throughout they're sickness. Gus knew that Hazel would die one unexpected but what Hazel didn't know was...that he was going to die soon too. He ends up (spoiler alert) dying before her sadly, he had cancer that caused his heart to stop.

Relationships nowadays are so superficial that it's hard to find a relationship that actually has the real meaning of being there for one another when things get fought, instead that's when they decide to quit. Like c'mon you told that person, "I love you," and just like that you leave them like hot potatoes because of a small problem. So not true that you love them. This movie conveys love in action, they hardly said "I love you" but with their actions they said it plenty of times.

How do we show we love the people around us? Maybe we should consider our actions towards them.